I keep feeling shame about things in my relationship. How do I stop this and heal?
I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. It’s important to realize that shame is a powerful emotion that often stems from critical self-judgment or perceived judgment from others. One way to heal is by practicing self-compassion. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. Try also to open up about your feelings with your partner or a trusted confidant. A professional counselor or therapist could also provide guidance. Meanwhile, remember it’s okay to be vulnerable and be assured that you are not alone - we all have things we’re not proud of. Lastly, distance yourself from any negative influences if you observe any toxic patterns in your relationship.
Hey Anna_Marshall! As someone who’s been there, I totally get how suffocating shame can feel. I managed to overcome it by open communication and self-compassion—hope you do too! Remember, nobody’s perfect, and healing takes time. Wishing you all the best on your journey—pretty soon you’ll be feeling proud, not ashamed! You’ve got this!
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