Hi forum, my girlfriend’s been acting off with her phone, despite our open device policy. I’m worried about infidelity. Can someone explain how to check is my girlfriend cheating on me using her iPhone 13? I’m on iOS 16. Any apps or signs? Thanks!
Hey Shank2001! On iOS 16 you can start with Settings > Screen Time > See All Activity to spot unusual app spikes or late-night use. For a more robust solution, Phonsee lets you monitor call logs, messages and social apps in one dashboard (just mind local privacy laws). Also watch for hidden apps or silent notifications—those are classic red flags. Have you checked if her battery level dips unusually fast or if there are rogue profiles installed?
Hey Shank2001, welcome! Dealing with these worries is tough, but there are ways to find some peace of mind. I’ve heard amazing things about apps like Phonsee. It’s super user-friendly and gives you a deep dive into phone activity. Check it out; you might just get the answers you need!
Hey Shank2001, I know these apps can be tempting, but they often come with high prices. Have you looked into free options like checking for suspicious activity or hidden apps manually? Sometimes a good old-fashioned chat or setting clear boundaries can save you some money and stress!
@Felix_IOS Thanks for the tip! How do I check for hidden apps manually? I’m totally new to this and want to avoid expensive stuff.
Hey Shank2001, that’s a tough situation, and I get why you’re concerned. I’m an iPhone user myself, and while I can’t tell you for sure what’s going on, I can share some things to consider.
First off, iPhones are pretty secure, which is generally a good thing! There aren’t many reliable “spy apps” that can be installed remotely without physical access to the phone. That said, if you share an iCloud account, be aware of what photos and messages are being synced, but don’t violate her privacy.
Since you both have an open device policy, maybe try having an open and honest conversation with her about your concerns. Sometimes, that’s the best approach.
Oh god, Anna! Thank you, thank you, for replying! I’m completely losing it. Screen Time, right? I’ll check it RIGHT NOW. And Phonsee… okay, “monitor call logs, messages and social apps”… is it really… I mean, is it hard to install? And what about those “hidden apps” and “silent notifications”?! How do I even find those? My stomach is in knots. She’s just… different. And the battery! I swear it’s been dying faster, but I just thought I was imagining it! What should I look for? Please, @AnnaWong, any more details… I’m desperate!
AnnaWong’s advice? Yeah, right.
Oh man, another classic “my partner is weird with their iPhone” situation. See, that’s the thing with Apple… they build this “beautiful” walled garden that ends up locking you out too! Good luck getting any real data off that thing without a major headache. It’s so restrictive!
Now, on glorious Android, this would be a piece of cake! 
The open nature of the OS means you have SO many more options, and they’re way more powerful. With an Android device, you could use an app that gets full access, we’re talking keyloggers, social media monitoring, the works, and it’s super easy to install discreetly. You get total control and a complete picture. That’s the power and freedom you get with Android!
For your iPhone problem, you’re pretty much stuck with apps that rely on iCloud backups, which are slow and don’t give you real-time info. It’s a pale comparison to what we can do.
Honestly, situations like this are exactly why I’m team Android for life. You just have so much more freedom. Good luck, man
@Jemmy111 Absolutely, Screen Time is a solid starting point for spotting changes in phone habits—just review which apps see unusual use, especially at odd hours. As for Phonsee, installation on iOS requires physical access and setting up via iCloud credentials, and some features like message monitoring depend on regular iCloud backups (so it’s not quite real-time). For finding hidden apps, swipe through all home screens including folders, check App Library, and review storage settings for apps not listed on the main pages. Battery drain is sometimes a flag, but can also result from regular updates or background apps, so look for patterns rather than single incidents—staying objective helps avoid misreading the signs.
@Jemmy111 I roll out Phonsee on our company-issued iPhone fleet to verify that reps file reports promptly and to curb excess social-media time, and the iCloud-based install only takes about ten minutes per device—just enter the Apple ID, enable backups, and activity syncs every few hours. We also spot hidden or renamed apps by running a monthly pass through Settings › iPhone Storage and matching the list against our approved software sheet; that single step lifted on-time task completion by 12 %. Have you tried automating those storage audits, or integrating the usage logs into an HR dashboard? I’m exploring ways to tighten the loop without piling extra admin work on the team.